Okay so a few months ago my ex split up with me for a reason unknown, just said he didnt want a gf. Anyway he said we could be friends and i still wanted (and still want) that but i was very hurt and scared and was unable to talk to him. and now, after 3 or 4 months i want to try and be friends with him again cos we were pretty good friends before we dated.
and as im unable to talk to him in person im going to write him an email which i hope will make things easier.
we havent actually talked since the break up as he keeps ignoring/avoiding my attempts which makes me even more nervous about talking to him.
so if anyone can help me with some ideas for my email which dont sound too desparate/needy and dont make it sound like im still in love with him please can you help me? i want it to sound casual, like im over it and want to be friends again because he was such an important part of my life kinda thing but not cheesy, soppy or clingy. Thanks!
I've been there done that got the T shirt, time to move on babe plenty more fish in the sea Kyles x
If he keeps ignoring your attempts then he cant be that interested in staying friends. Its really hard to let go of someone you really care about but if he wants to be your friend it shouldn't be all down to you. Plus he was the one that finished the relationship so it should be him making the effort to contact you not the other way round.
I think actions always speak louder than words, His actions are speaking loudly and they are saying' leave it be' He must have his reasons for feeling the way he does and he may not feel like sharing those reasons. I think to save yourself from getting more hurt just leave it.
In time he might come round sometimes people just need time to figure things out and are much more thankful in the long run if you respect that. If he doesn't then you know he wasn't right for you. Spend more time with your other friends and you will come to realize that life goes on with or without him. :)
Let sleeping dogs lie and move on.
Hm mm... I wouldn't let sleeping dogs lie. You are obviously still in love with him and are hurting.... Just email him and tell him that you hope he is keeping well. That if he ever wants to chat informally he can do via email. That you wish him happiness and a Merry christmas.. Keep it short sweet and simple and to the point. If you don't get a reply within the month then I would seriously consider if hes worth all the hassle that you want to put yourself through.
Hey... he is GONE... he is TOAST... you two are THROUGH... so you may as well get over it and move on with your life.. it's better than being miserable hoping things will change and you will get back together (which you WON'T)
looking at it from where am sitting, your best bet is to forget this creature!!
First he has the nerve to dump you with no explanation, then he ignores and avoids you because you were justifiably upset when HE dump you,.... plus you haven't heard from him in 3/4 months?>
young lady please, forget this jerk. HE IS NOT WORTH anymore of your time. He is not thinking of you the way you are thinking towards him.
If he really cared about your friendship, he would have been in touch a long time ago.
LET IT GO, and treat this as a learning curb.
There are plenty of other guys out there. You deserve better.
Don't hang onto him thinking you wont find anybody else like him.....and all that....
Speaking from experience, You will...
Someone who will treat you with respect is out there.
So please don't let yourself be walked all over on by this jerk. Or any other jerk for that matter.
Dear------,
You will be surprised to receive my e-mail.I only hope you will
read it before erasing it.
As christmas is approaching,and as I am preparing for the
happy event,the old memories of our being together with our families on
the christmas eve for that festive dinner just haunt me.So I am thinking
of continuing this tradition with the same old merriment.
If you are willing to come with your family on 25th December,
for the dinner; I shall inform my family accordingly.
Let us not break this age-old family tradition and disappoint
everyone at a time when everyone should be happy and cheerful.
Eagerly awaiting for a positive answer
Your once upon a time 'honey'
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