I am married and 22 and my husband and I are thinking of having our first baby together. Why is it that people say we can't handle it when there is teenagers out of wedlock have children?
1.) You're an adult.
2.) You're married.
Tell them to back off. Period.
Unless there is a valid reason why they feel the need to butt in (you're unemployed, drug addicts, cheating on each other, etc.), then it's none of their business. While it's generally good to wait to have children (they can be a strain on a new marriage, and once they're there, they are there...less time as a new couple), if you are ready, that's all that matters.
Just ignore everyone.
If you both feel ready,
then who cares what others think?
I wish you the best!
(Update me if you two have kids after all so that I may wish you congratulations!)
Girl don't worry about it! People are way to quick to judge. If you and your hubby want a baby I think that is an awesome thing. Babies are a blessing from God and nobody has the right to tell you that you aren't ready to be blessed! And about teens having babies, how does that even compare to a young married couple? Children is one of the reasons people get married in the first place. So go for it! Good luck! God bless u guys!
Given how harsh people are towards teenagers who get pregnant, I wouldn't use them to compare. One issue here is that many people feel that kids are too much work, and that life should always be about what is fun and easy (sense of entitlement). They will say that you should not have kids when you're young, because you should be "enjoying yourself", and that you shouldn't have to grow up. There's nothing wrong with being mature and responsible, provided that you accept that you will have to do so.
My mom was 20 when she got married. The age I am now. Dad was 25. So don't worry about it. Do what you want.
nothing worng with it. i cant understand people that post about what they were doing at that age and say i wasnt ready for it. well thats you not anyone else.
i have been married for over 4 years and i am only 24. my husband turned 24 last month. we have a 8 month old daughter and we have a mortgage on our flat. We are responsible parents who dont go out drinking or leaving our daughter. When we first got married we did go out a lot together but we were married and that doesnt mean your dead like some people think you are who say you have 'missed out'.
We havent missed out on anything. We met in air force training and spent 3 and a half years in that. We had loads of fun and spent 4 months in the Falklands and at other air force bases. We got married in Jamaica and we have done loads of fun things together.
My mum and dad got married at 20 and they are now 54. Dont listen to anyone as when they were younger if a girl wasnt married by about 25 she was viewed as an outcast and now its the other way round!!
Societal views change and everyone seems to jump on the bandwagon. Every case is different some are ready and some arent. congratulations
I think it's not adviced to have a baby at 22 because most people aren't ready. When I was 22, I was a junior in college. I lived in an apartment with a bunch fof friends and I couldn 't even afford myself. Let alone a baby. So, I thin many people are coming from that area. Most 22 year olds are still in college and not ready for a baby.
But, if you can truly afford (as in full-time jobs, health insurance and a stable home) baby then do it. But, if there are doubts, don't. I work with inner city kids, I see too may kinds that have parents that meant well, but didn't in the long run.
I think people are hoping that you spend your money to enjoy your life first. i.e. My father told me there are only two times to enjoy your life with your spouse. Before the kids, after the retirement. They are looking out for you because raising kids is difficult and they want you to live your life to it's fullest and have as many adventures before bringing kids into the picture to join in the adventure. 18 years later, you'll be glad you did it, but perhaps the people telling you had many more dreams and goals to accomplish before having children. I'm 27 right now and I'm not quite ready for children yet because there are so many adventures I want to share with my partner before settling down and raising children. When we do it, I know that I will work, take care of the children with my husband, take the children on vacation when we can, and will have full lives, but for now, it's just us, just best friends having adventures before we begin and adventure in parenthood. If you feel content with your life and feel you've had the adventures you want, have children, raise em up right, because once they are in the world, there's no turning back and you're whole goal will be to make sure they are the best people they can be.
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Because 22 is insanely young even to be married. I'm going to be 21 soon, and I can't fathom being married even in the next 5 years, let alone at 22.
If you are mature and supporting yourselves, there is no reason for the two of you not to try to have children. You should first consider if you can afford it, who will watch the child while you are working, etc...
It is unfortunate that teenagers have children because they cannot financially support the child they create and much of the child-rearing responsibilities lies on the the grandparents' shoulders. I believe that if you can mentally, financially, physically, and emotionally handle anything then you should go for it!
Just ignore people. I think some of the issue is that many people at 22 are not mature enough to handle kids (and they woud be once they had them VERY quickly, like teenagers do). However, if you are supporting yourselves and are mature enough then go for it! People just like to be miserable (especially on yahoo answers). Their lives are bitter so they feel they need to take it out on everyone else (not everyone is like that but a surprisingly large amount are).
Good luck!!!!
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