I know if you want to help you'll actually read of all of this, because it's a lot. So those who are willing to, thank you so much :)
Two years ago, I used to go to this place to go to concerts called Skatelife. There, I met bands (local, of course) and made a lot of friends. One of those bands was one called Dead Industrial where one of my friends was a lead singer. Note that I was an 8th grader, and he was a junior. Or maybe even a senior, I don't really know. But point is, I met his band and everyone. I didn't really have a taste for their looks, but their sound was pretty good.
Two or three weeks later, my guesstimation, a boy named Jordan added me on myspace. He's not very attractive, but he's cute, ya know. He added me on AIM, also, and we talked a lot. We didn't talk about dating or any of that kinda stuff, just about life. About religion, politics, music- real things. And he's super smart. I enjoyed talking to him, and I know he did, too. He tried to talk to me all the time. Then he invited me to a party last Friday. And I went. It wasn't a huge shindig, but about 15 people were there at the most for a while. It was my first party.
Also, let me add... I'm 15 years of age. And he's 19. Actually, today's his birthday. But point is, we talked about a lot of things. One of them being my virginity and how I don't want to loose it any time soon. He always had some things he said that were minorly flirty, but I never really took mind of it.
The party last week, it was obvious. He was kinda drunk (hey, it happens) and he was horribly flirty. Liquor makes you honest, you know. And he cuddled on me, and did lots of things to show his interest. But he never kissed me. And I never kissed him. And that night, after going to sleep at 6 am, I slept in his bed. Nothing happened. We just slept together in the normal sleepy zzzz way.
And I realized, he's a super cool dude. I like him a little.
After last Friday, he hasn't tried to talk to me. He hasn't gotten on AIM all week, and he gave up txting me. When I finally quit putting effort to talk to him this Wednesday, he didn't even try. And I know he's busy, but he used to talk to me all the time.
I don't understand.
Well, today is his birthday, and one of his best friends Adam is getting me after my wrestling meet I must attend (I'm a manager) to go to Jordan's party. I'm awkwardly nervous- I haven't talked to him in forever.
But what made him loose interest so quickly? What did I do? Did he finally realize I'm such a hideous creature, I mean, I don't know.
And if you think it might be the last one, feel free to check my myspace
www.myspace.com/crazy_crayon706
And I know it's not because of my age, because he initially knew it. I'm also extremely mature for my age, as for everyone tells me that.
So any bit of help would be appriciated.
Please and MAJOR thank you.
First of all he's a bit too old for you right now so I would let that relationship go and find someone your own age. Even if you like him and trust that he wouldn't do anything you should stay away from him simply because he apparently likes to party and you wouldn't want to get caught at one of these parties. I also assume you don't really know his friends and you never know what one of them could do to you let alone the fact that if your guy is passed out drunk and does respect your virginity, how can he "save" you if he is too drunk to know who you are let alone who he himself is??
He probably realized you meant what you said about not wanting to lose your virginity. Most guys hear it, and put the moves on anyway just to see if you'll hopefully change your mind.....
He's probably embarrassed. Or ticked because you didn't bang him.
Go tonight and just have fun.
Good luck!
You haven't done anything wrong :)
But... what you shouldn't do is chase after him, wait for him to contact you. Give it a week or so, he may just be generally busy. If he doesn't contact you by then, then he isn't worth your time :)
He sounds like a typical guy. He might want more out of you. Ya know move things to the next level.
Don't let him pressure you.
Hopefully nothing happened while you were alseep if not he may feel guilty by the way he acted also how mature can a 15yr old be?????and sure he's mature.....
Okay, it's not that he's not into you it may be the fact that your not willing to have sex that makes him not as interested. Sorry but it's true. DO NOT JUST HAVE SEX WITH HIM BECAUSE YOU THINK IT WILL GET HIM TO LIKE IT WON'T HE PROBABLY WILL FEEL LESS ATTRACTED TO YOU IF YOU GIVE IN! That being said. Go to the party and have fun. Don't worry about him or anything and let him talk to you... unless you like run into him or something and then of course say hi. There is a problem with the age thing because weather or not you think so you're still pretty young in comparison to him. He may not have a problem with it and you may not but it could def cause issues.
ALSO, he may just be busy or now that he knows you like him he isn't trying as hard. It happens with all guys. Get used to it. HAHA. Send him a text wishing him happy birthday if you want to do that. It still shows your interested but your not coming on as OMG i really like you.
I hope this helps and don't feel bad I went through the same thing. The guy and I got along great but in the end he wanted someone closer to his age and that could keep up with what he had going on.
well, im 15 also. i also have dating problems. but is because of my bipolar and adhd. i get angry really easy. most times, i flip out.
i could really also use a girl that appreciates my love. and one who doesnt use me like all the rest did. and, well, im also very immature.
i also need someone to aid me and who'll always be there for me.
Well first off you're not a hideous creature so I don't know why you'd say that about yourself.
Secondly, maybe he lost interest in you. It happens. Not your fault. He's a guy - lots of pretty girls out there.
Go to the party, talk to him and see if he wants to be friends still, or more, or nothing at all. Good luck.
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